so much fun it should be illegal!

 dang ! i thought i posted yesterday

Jules and I caught this while in D.C. at the Hirshhorn museum in D.C. Proof positive we are just ridiculous people ~ we had been walking around D.C. all day and  happened to look into this small theatre and saw it was a movie...so we went in and sat in the back row against the wall. It was very dark and this scene played continually ~ a man walking in front of an icebreaker. We sat there ..............waiting.............for something to happen. Eventually other people would come in a sit in front of us, pairs of people and they would sit for a moment and there would be silence, then perhaps a cough, then embarrassed laughter, then they would leave shaking their heads. Jules and I enjoyed watching people react over and over typically the same way: some would speak about  how stupid this was, others would be searching for some idea of what was going on....it was way too interesting. they would leave and then we would laugh ~ perhaps it was a feeling of superiority that we knew this was all there was and they just didn't get it. Maybe we were just tired and sitting made our feet hurt less and we were giggly anyway, whatever it was- this is one of our favorite memories from Washington D.C.

Black Box: Guido van der Werve

April 20, 2009 to November 8, 2009

planning

preparing

anticipating

the smell of turkey in the morning

hot coffee beignets and macy's parade

starting with the turkey and ending with santa

like a starting gun and the hoilday season begins

family friends food

board games and football

holding babies

and chasing the little guys

listening to/telling old stories

seeing the faces of those

i love the most

remembering those that are no longer here

their spirits fill the air on this day

~

This is my simple religion.
There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy.

Our own brain, our own heart is our temple;
The philosophy is kindness.
~ Dalai Lama

talking with my mom the other day while riding in the car
about normal things:
the kids
us as mothers
our weaknesses which perhaps are really our strengths
religion what it all really means
burial plans and how she must talk to my aunt about them
our purposes here on earth
are we doing all we can?
subject came up about kindness
i had found  a quote maybe on Anne's blog and used it on facebook the other day:
"The way to know the heart of a person is to see how they treat people they don't know when in need."

Corey had written a post about when her husband proposed to her
and how it was interrupted by his kindness to a stranger, i told mom this story and various stories of my husbands kindness as well we spoke about both of my grandfathers and my husband: three of the kindest men i have ever known. i had an epiphany the other day
about kindness
perhaps it really is the most important thing
and how everything flows from that

when i think about the people in my life who are now gone
whether dead or just not in my life anymore
it is easy to divide them into 2 groups
kind and unkind
and it is pretty amazing that most of the really kind ones are dead
the others that are no longer in my life
are for the most part unkind, they just didn't make the cut
sure there are a few that physically moved away or drifted
out of my life for a lot of reasons
but the majority of people that i see, talk to, or even just think about on a regular basis are very kind

one advantage of middle age
we know what we like
what we need
and especially what we do not want or need in our lives

i have a plaque that reads:
KINDNESS MATTERS

and you know
it really does